Visit to Algoma
Sunday, July 31st, 2005This entry was written at 2118, Saturday July 30.
Today I went up to Algoma to get my kayak from Megan’s parent’s house and also to visit with them. I left at 1115 and arrived at 1200. The drive up was very pleasant. I miss the area around Lake Michigan a lot and driving through it reminded me of this fact. Last summer, I did that drive several times, and the summer before I did it a few times a week. Algoma looked very nice as I drove through on my way north to Megan’s parent’s house.
When I arrived, her dad greeted me and I came inside to sit down. We sat and talked for a good two hours, the time just ticking by. I also was able to play with their pets, who I miss seeing. After that, Megan’s dad asked if I would like to have a car rack that he wasn’t using to put on my car so my kayak wouldn’t scratch my car. I said sure and went outside to take a look at it with him. It looked dirty and old but not so much that it wouldn’t work very well. He said he would clean it up some for me. I got my kayak down from the loft of their barn. I helped her dad put the rack on my car, loaded up my kayak, and was ready to go. I said good bye to them and was on my way. They reminded me that it was fine if I wanted to bring my kayak back to their loft and store it when I was done using it. I said I might take them up on that offer.
What was most notable about this visit is the feeling between Megan’s parents and myself. We always had a good relationship, and I always felt close to them. Would it have come about that Megan and I had married, I believe I would have called them ‘mom’ and ‘dad.’ So, while Megan and I are not friendly anymore and after her very cold treatment of me and after the situations described in my previous post, I was very happy to see that Megan’s parents and I are as close as ever. I really felt a good connection with them – like I belonged at their house visiting with them even though Megan and I are no longer together.
During the course of our great conversation, I also found it interesting that they seemed to know very little about me lately. This confirms what I wrote about previously – Megan does not ever talk about me. Despite the fact that she calls me regularly (or did before she found herself a boyfriend), she does not feel compelled to talk about me at all. Perhaps this is merely a character flaw, and she is not in the habit of discussing things about her friends. But I do believe that a normal person frequently tells people about his or her friends. Indeed, sometimes I feel that I talk about my friends so much and retell their stories, it may seem to some I have no stories of my own. Talking with Megan’s parents I also learned that they knew a lot about Megan’s friend Rachel who is getting married amidst a whole slew of questionable circumstances. So Megan does talk about some friends, just not me.
I guess Megan no longer considers me a friend. Or perhaps she feels pressure not to talk about me. Or maybe her parents just pretended that she hasn’t talked about me as a way to be polite. But I honestly believe that they had no idea how often she was calling me. In short, I believe I have gotten screwed. The one thing I asked her to do for me (tell people I was not making her upset, was a good guy, et cetera) she hasn’t done. She has not told her parents (the two people who I would prefer did not believe lies about me upsetting Megan) that I am very supportive of her.
They still seem to think well of me, even though I know there have been times when she has told them that I had upset her, even when this was not the case. So I was relieved that we were able to have such a nice time together. It is good to see I am still in their good graces, especially enough that they asked me to bring my kayak back to store there. I wonder what this good relationship will mean for any future boyfriend of Megan’s. Not to toot my own horn, but I do believe I am a high caliber of person, more well-rounded and better-spoken than the average person. I also know that Megan’s friends in high school tended to be people from a lower status than myself. These also seem to be the types of friends she has come to know better in Whitewater, and based on that evidence it would not surprise me if her new fling is a bit of a loser (his name is RUSTY for god’s sake!). Megan will introduce her parents to him in a couple weeks. Will he be able to beat the favorable impression I just left them with? I look forward to finding out.




